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Hey, stop being so hard on yourself! (It's not helping)

Updated: Nov 28, 2023

Here's something I've noticed a lot lately...

Whatever it is you're dealing with, do you think it's possible you're being too hard on yourself?

I ask because it's something I've noticed a lot lately in clinic. Clients say things like, 'I know it's stupid...' and 'it sounds silly...' and 'it's not logical...' and 'I have no willpower...' and 'I'm lazy and that's why I procrastinate...'

You're already headed in the right direction

Well, you know what these clients have in common - along with everyone else who's ever come to see me to work on their stuff? That's right: they're working on their stuff. Just by being brave enough to pick up the phone, admit that there's something they want to fix that they can't seem to manage all by themselves... If, as they say, a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step, then they've already started that journey!

And guess what? If you are reading these words right now, you too have already started your journey. You're looking, and you will find what you're looking for. It may not be me, and that's absolutely fine.

Halve your problems at a stroke!

So that's one reason for not beating yourself up because you have a problem. (Who doesn't? I know I have.) Here's another: it doesn't help. Suppose you're someone who, I don't know, wants to lose weight. OK, that's your issue: lose weight. But if you're beating yourself up, hating your body, blaming yourself for lack of willpower, having an 'addictive personality' (whatever that means), being lazy blah blah blah. Well, congratulations: now you have TWO problems! And you really only need one. One is quite plenty.

My clients get used to me giving them that look when they start up with the self-beating-up. It doesn't get us anywhere, and it certainly doesn't help you feel any better about yourself.

Want to take the next step?

So if you'd like to experience that look in person, or even just want to find out whether Hypnotherapy may be helpful for you, book a ten minute discovery call.

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