What Happens To You Isn't What's Important
It's not what happens that matters - it's how you handle it, how you think of it. We all know that glass half full person, who is constantly positive even when things aren't going well. And we all know that glass half empty person, who is constantly negative, even when things are going well.
I thought of this when I came across an excellent example, a news story of Zach Galifianakis, who created The Hangover, and how afterwards he found that as a comedian he felt intimidated by its success - how could he go out and simply observe people, now he was famous? Jerry Seinfeld, who for a decade was one of the most recognisable faces on the planet, has a different way of thinking about it: '“That’s all your perception,” he says.“The world has not changed that much because people know who you are. This whole thing that ‘I can’t observe the world now because I’m not anonymous,’ I don’t buy one bit of that. I don’t. There’s too much world.” But aren't you annoyed by the intrusion of your privacy? “Nobody’s interested," says Seinfeld. "Nobody cares. No one’s gonna watch it. I don’t see that as an incursion on my privacy or my dignity or I don’t find it rude.”
Who's right? Well, they're both right, from their point of view. If you are famous and you're upset by it, then fame is a drag and stops you doing what you want. If you're famous and you don't care, then fame is neither here nor there and certainly doesn't get in the way of you living your life. Rather than asking which is the right answer, you might instead wonder which is the more useful answer.
What attitudes do you have that aren't serving you well? Could you imagine thinking differently about things? Would that work better for you? Why not give it a try?